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 | Firstly, are Muslims allowed to marry Non-Muslims such as Hindus, Sikhs, Christians, Jews, etc, according to the Quran?
Secondly, what exactly does the Quran say about 'pre-marital sex'? |
 | Comments by: Dr. Qamar Zaman On Friday, March 12, 2010 |  | |
| This is a very interesting question. It needs two basic terminologies to be defined
Who is Muslim in Quran & Who is Non-muslim in Quran
A Muslim as defined in Quran is not a person who belongs to a any sect, to be Muslim is to be a peaceful person who cares for others and provide safety to fellow human beings.
The word Muslim is derived from the root letters (س ل م) meaning thereby safety and security. The word Muslim is made on the paradigm (مفعل) from additinal paradigm of tenses called (مذید فی)
The paradigm مفعل gives the meaning of the subject i.e. a person who acts upon others.
Islam is not a religion. It’s a character and quality of a person. So any person who provides peace and protection to others deserves to be called Muslim.
So a Non-Muslim in Quran is the one who does not live with peace and does not guarantee fellow human beings safety and security.
To add to the answer let me tell you Quran does not give any rituals or faiths of a religion, It gives the Morals, Values and basics of a Respectable Society on the bases of human rights. The wrongly translated word (حق) Truth made the whole difference. The meaning of (حق) is Rights. The word for truth in Arabic is (صدق). Very strange to note that word (صدق) is again wrongly translated as charity.
Quran is a book of Human Relations. It gives guidance to bring the humanity to freedom from the clutches of slavery and exploitation. For that matter Quran gives examples of Moses against Pharos, Jesus against Religious hegemony and other prophets.
Moses according to Quran never taught any ritual of worship, So Muslim can be a Hindu Christian Jew or a Sikh. Let me quote a verse from Quran Sura 2 Ayyat 62
إِنَّ الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا وَالَّذِينَ هَادُوا وَالنَّصَارَى وَالصَّابِئِينَ مَنْ آمَنَ بِاللَّهِ وَالْيَوْمِ الآخِرِ وَعَمِلَ صَالِحًا فَلَهُمْ أَجْرُهُمْ عِنْدَ رَبِّهِمْ وَلا خَوْفٌ عَلَيْهِمْ وَلا هُمْ يَحْزَنُونَ
Indeed those who are believers in Peace as well as those who are Jews and Christians and Serbians (anybody belonging to any religion), whosoever accepted Peace
according to parameters of creator and did good deeds, will be rewarded by benevolent. He has nothing to fear and nothing to repent.
You can see that reward is for anybody belonging to any religion. The only condition for reward is that he should lead a life of peace under the values and morals given by the creator and in the end it should results in peace.
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| Comments by: Dr. Qamar Zaman On Friday, March 12, 2010 | | |
| Now to answer about Premarital sex one has to be clear about marriage, Premarital and extramarital sex. Extramarital sex is absolutely not acceptable in any society.
What is a marriage ?
It as a contract between a male & female to lead a family life. Whenever a couple lives together, they live under a contract, wether written or unwritten.
The ceremonial customs of the contract are different in every society. Even in Muslims the marriage is ceremonised in many different ways. These customs are part of the culture and society and these ceremonial customs are not the part of the contract of marriage. The only thing necessary in a marriage is that it should be known to the society that the couple is faithful to each other.
So actually there is nothing to be called premarital sex. Any couple who starts a life without going into the ceremonies of marriage of the society may be against the society's customs but different societies have different customs.
In primitive societies the couple has no choice even to select the partner. Now if a couple decides to live together the impact of society binds them under some values. These bindings are the essence of a marital status. It may be a court of law with registration or It may be a permission from the parents or elders or it may be an unwritten moral binding to be followed by both male and female.
It is the last condition which is objectionable in some societies. What Quran demands is not the ceremony but the declaration.
It is the society and the people who decide which is the best for their people. If a society decides any situation of living together should be registered in a court of law then it is a binding for everyone to get such relations to be registered, but if a society does not want such relations to be registered apart from moral bindings then they are bound morally but no law can be forced upon them. It is the jurisdiction of the law makers and whatever law is made it is binding on all members of the society whether they like it or not. However they have the right to disagree but not to disobey.
I hope I have made myself clear. I may be wrong so readers are welcome to point out my mistakes.
Usually unregistered marital relations are also bounded by some restriction which are observed, the most important is NO extramarital involvements.
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| Comments by: Hafiz Abdullah On Thursday, April 15, 2010 | Report Abuse | |
| Respectable Dear Dr sahib slam,
I would like to have the Quranic references regarding your precious discussion about marriage .
Could u please give the Quranic references? it will be your great kindness .
Thanks ,
God bless u with every good thing n prevent u from all evils . | |
| Comments by: moazzam On Friday, April 16, 2010 | | |
| Dear hafiz sahib regards,In holy Quraan Allah has not given the details of "nikah",but left the performance procedure open to the society (with in the limitation described).One example of this marriage contract is "Mosa's"case in verse 28/27.If you or the "mazhabi paishwa of any sact" has the Quranic referance regarding nikah's procedure please quate it .The best way to follow the quraan is ,obay his orders and restrain at restrictions 59/7,and keep the matters open where he left it open for believers.Also i requets Dr. Qamar sahib for correction if im wrong.Thanks | |
| Comments by: Hafiz Abdullah On Sunday, April 25, 2010 | Report Abuse | |
| Dear Dr sahib slam,
Sir, u said about the marriage " What Quran demands is not the ceremony but the declaration. "
Would u please guide me about the reference where does the Quran demand declaration regarding marriage ?
May God bless u .
thanks.
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| Comments by: Anwer Suri On Tuesday, May 11, 2010 | Report Abuse | |
| Dear Dr Qamar,
You said
"It is the society and the people who decide which is the best for their people. If a society decides any situation of living together should be registered in a court of law then it is a binding for everyone to get such relations to be registered, but if a society does not want such relations to be registered apart from moral bindings then they are bound morally but no law can be forced upon them. ".
I have question in this regard please reply.
In USA many couple lives without marrying each other. The reason varies but on high level the most common is that they are not sure that this person is the right one with whom they want to live for rest of the life.
They call each other boyfriend/girlfriend and keep changing until either they settled with one another or give up finding another. Some time separation is just because of a dog or the girl/boy found someone better usually in wealth or sometime just bored.
Those who find that they can live with each other they do merry and follow the ceremonies.
I strongly feel I would not like my children to do that because the result is that there are no family values and selfishness becomes first nature. The relationships become mechanical with no emotions. There are single mothers and fathers. Kids in school have behavioral issues just because of this selfishness.
I thought Quran provides a proper system that how the marriage should be terminated then how it will work? So shouldn’t be there some procedure to declare a girl and boy as husband and wife? This is the starting point of a new family.
You have interpreted that Salat-ul-Wusta is Family laws and I agree with you. What are the laws to start a new family?
May Allah bless you and all of us.
Thanks
Wassalam
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| Comments by: moazzam On Tuesday, May 11, 2010 | | |
| Dear Anwar suri regards,plz keep in mind this quraan is for the guidance of "muttaqeens"(not for cheeters as u given the example)and u know very well the qualities of muttaqeen mentioned in quran.The momin/muslim will try to find out his life partner of same charecter (mohsinat ghair e musafihat).As for as social values for childeren and parrents are concerns,the Quraan given very clear instructions for all.Brother Anwar suri, keeping in view my humble comments go through the Dr.sahab's answer to the subjected matter.Thanks. | |
| Comments by: Anwer Suri On Saturday, June 05, 2010 | Report Abuse | |
| Mohtaram Moazzam sahib,
I think my question to Dr Qamar was that when the society and the people have to decide which is the best for their people then if American socitey or any society decides that a marriage contract is not required to live as man and wife, or if they decide that even as man and man or woman and woman can have a marriage contract, then what are the guide lines provided for that socitey from the Quran?
By the way I was not talking about cheaters, you assumed that. These behaviours are treated as normal.
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| Comments by: moazzam On Tuesday, June 08, 2010 Edit Delete | | |
| Mr Anwer suri regards, i would like to share with u at this topic . The contracts must be witnessed(written and witnessed if possible).Yes this is up to the society and people how they decide best for their marriage contracts.One thing must be remember the quranic limits shuold not be crassed.As the 2nd part of ur query is concerns,the quranic teaching at the behavior of qaom e loot,permits the marriage contract between male and female only. | |
| OTHER QUESTIONS ON | | HALAL O HARAM |
| | | Please,explain who are the women in The Quran,a muslim can marry??
Can a muslim marry his first cousins,ie..uncles and aunts daughters?? Question by: MohYam On 2/8/2010
| | | Sir I could not read and download books .Please tell me How I can open these books? Question by: Rehan_Khan On 2/10/2010
| | | dear Dr:Qamarzaman ,regaurds, kindly explain the marriage with 1st cousins,as the ayat no 22-24 of Alnisa gives the halal-o-haram limits. But the ayat no 50 of Alahzab gives this permission to only Nabi with the condition 0f migration with Nabi. Question by: moazzam On 3/4/2010
| | | Dr. sahib regards,Almost all muslims r following the yahood's trend in"halal o haram"even in performing rituals, by using plane language of Quran.How can ur tiny force including my self ,can accellerate ur mission against this darkness (de-track) Question by: moazzam On 4/19/2010
| | | dear aurabgzaib or qamar zaman is SHARAB(wine) or KHAMR haram.is any drug haram?plz expalin in the light of quran Question by: bilal_khan5181 On 6/16/2010
| | | Dr Qamar,regards.Ap ne Kitab Halao Haram mein jo Soreh Maida ki ibtadae ayat ke rabt k bare mein likha hai wo laike tehseen hai,par in tamam ayat ka plz asan tarjuma aik sath urdu mein kar dein.Aur kitab mein is cheiz ka izafa farmaein.thnx Question by: agha_sanaullah On 6/18/2010
| | | Dear Dr Zaman,
From your article on Halal O Haram, I could not clearly grasp your interpretation about the swineflesh? please state unequivocally is it Halal or Haram?
Salam
Khurram Question by: Kjahan On 7/10/2010
| | | Dr AOA, Dr Shabir of Florida, strongly disagree's with your interpretation of Quran? as per the link below
http://www.ourbeacon.com/cgi-bin/bbs60x/webbbs_config.pl
What's your respnse? if two scholars can't agree how we expect muslims to unite? Question by: Kjahan On 7/10/2010
| | | is muta haram? Question by: bilal_khan5181 On 8/3/2010
| | | dear aurangzaib can it be proven from the quran that eating dog is haram? Question by: bilal_khan5181 On 8/8/2010
| | | Dear Dr Zaman,
it been more than a month since i posted my Q on your website, i like to know if swineflesh is Halal (permissible) according to Quran? it will be a lot of help to those who reside in non-muslim countries?
Salam Khurram Question by: Kjahan On 8/16/2010
| | | Dear aurangzaib is smoking or snuff (powdered tobacco) or some other kind of intoxicant haram according to quran? Question by: bilal_khan5181 On 8/21/2010
| | | hai kial kheenzir ek khas suwar kahete hai to ? allail alfajr alsalaath allah alrahman alshjr salatulfajr salatulisha kiya ya salath ko koi khas fajr ko khas ishan ko qaiyam karna hoga aam fajr aam ishan mein qaiyam nahi karsakte ? Question by: MOHAD OSMAN On 8/23/2010
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